Was given the book by Robert Bly called A Little Book on the Human Shadow. He talks about people who have done work with their shadow and absorbed it back into themselves having a certain kind of humor. “Lincoln had it. Someone asked Lincoln if he would find him a good government job, and Lincoln said, “I have very little influence in this administration.” When a woman he met on a train told him he was one of the ugliest men she’d seen in her entire life, he didn’t become offended. What should I do about that?” he asked the woman. “Well,” she said, ” you could stay home.” Lincoln told that story on himself- he liked her answer